leafields ( Guide #63517) posted at 9:09 PM on Friday, December 19th, 2025
It was in the past, theres nothing you can do to change it, she's not that person now
Funny thing about our brains. The brain can detect trauma, but doesn't differentiate between betrayal trauma and you being chased down to be eaten by a cheetah. Time is sort of fluid, too.
Your brain may still be trying to detect if your environment is safe, or if a cheetah is ready to pounce on you. You may have PTSD and need specialized treatment. It isn't something you can just "get over" because there's something that may be signaling that you aren't safe. Or, it could be the rush of cortisol through your body. Infidelity can do some terrible things to you physically.
BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21