AdLarue17 (original poster member #84917) posted at 6:47 PM on Monday, December 15th, 2025
How are you all getting through the holidays? I do not feel in the spirit at all this year. But since it’s our last Christmas, I want it to be at least ok. But I’m having a hard time. My kids are older so I don’t have to worry about Santa or Elf on the Shelf or anything. And I usually love Christmas! Any suggestions?
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Dorothy123 ( member #53116) posted at 3:48 AM on Tuesday, December 16th, 2025
I wanted to respond to this thread with personal response from myself.
But I entered the query of " it's ok to cry on Christmas " into Google AI.
I really like Google's response .
So, ill use it
It is completely okay to cry on Christmas. Despite societal pressure for constant happiness, the holiday season can bring up complicated emotions, grief, stress, or loneliness, and your feelings are valid
If you want to read the rest of it Google up " it's ok to cry on Christmas "
So, however you end up feeling around the holidays whether it be happiness or not so happy; it's ok.
Sending hugs.
[This message edited by Dorothy123 at 3:53 AM, Tuesday, December 16th]
"I’ll get you my pretty, and your little dog too!" Wicked Witch of the West.
leafields ( Guide #63517) posted at 4:25 AM on Tuesday, December 16th, 2025
I'm D already, so I don't have to worry about being nice one more time.
Maybe think about it as being the start of new traditions. What would you like to have in the future that you might start this year?
BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21
AdLarue17 (original poster member #84917) posted at 4:28 AM on Tuesday, December 16th, 2025
I can’t even wrap my head around what it will look like next year. I just keep imagining not having my daughters for a part of it and it hurts my heart so much.
AnnieOakley ( member #13332) posted at 4:34 AM on Tuesday, December 16th, 2025
I vaguely remember the holidays. We did not have children, so didn’t need to pretend for anyone.
If you read my lonnng profile, I felt my marriage was a lie. After dday I refused to celebrate ANYTHING for years. The last year I was trying to be nice and kind-to the best that I could. I was never really hateful, just the LPOF.
Do what you can and what makes you feel best in the situation. I know your kids are older, keep the spirit to the best of your abilities. Give yourself grace, but do not feel obligated to make grand gestures.
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Me= BSHim=xWH (did the work & became the man I always thought he was, but it was too late)M=23+,T=27+dday=7/06, 8/09 (pics at a work function), 11/09 VAR, 6/12 Sep'd, 10/14 Divorced."If you are going through hell, keep going."
